Everything begins with passion, with feeling

3 August 2014
Love it!

We live in a society that offers us everything: an excess of food, an excess of information, an excess of material things. As a result, we are moving further and further away from our true selves and we are at risk of losing our way. We no longer know which foods are good for us and which knowledge makes us happy. Even our material prosperity brings us little comfort. We have everything and we think we are free. But do we really feel free?

Our lives are driven by so many exterior forces: advertising, hypes and trends, etc. Society places great demands on us and our children. Will we ever be able to meet those demands? We worry about everything and the mental effort involved makes us tired and unhappy. We increasingly find ourselves in a world where we are forced to think all the time. But as a result, we have forgotten how to feel - and feeling is the direct line to our true self. I want to feel. I know nothing, but I feel a lot. If I feel the passion in 'the bitter-sweet voice of tenderness' (Chavela Vargas), then I feel that I am alive. If I cook for the people I love, I feel connected to them like never before. If mould clay in my hands, I feel happy. If I embrace my man, I still feel in my heart that my decision of 20 years ago was the right one. I feel, smell and touch everything. I want to live by my senses. I want to feel myself. I want to feel the blood flowing through my veins. I want to feel life.

Don't be too concerned about what you want to do or who you want to be. How can you possibly know these things? Can you look into the future? Don't set targets for a future that you cannot change. Ask yourself instead what makes you enthusiastic here and now. What do you feel right now? Listen to your heart. My motto is 'act first, think later'. In life, the destination is not the most important thing; it is the journey to get there. The answers to all your questions will not be waiting at the end of the road; instead, you will find the answers to those questions as you travel through life day by day. If you fail to realize this, you may be very disappointed when you finally reach your goal. Because you may discover that it is not what you really wanted after all. So remember the golden rule: feel first, act second - and think last of all!

Start small and move forward step-by-step. I have never set goals for myself. When I was younger, I never knew what I wanted to do with my life - but I was confident that things would work out well in the end. I certainly never thought that I would lead the life that I now lead; that I would have such a wonderful husband; that I would write books, cook, create ceramics, design furniture. I do not believe in innate talent. You can cultivate your own talent. It was my journey through life that has brought me to where I am today. If I can do it, everyone can do it. As long as you feel. 

'If you eat natural foods, you think differently, feel more.'

Pascale Naessens